“So I say, walk in the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16 NIV).
Lust is a strong craving for sex…Lust is a strong, powerful desire, whether it’s a noun or verb: you lust for things you deeply crave. Someone greedy lusts for money. Someone gluttonous lusts for food. The most basic meaning of lust is an unquenchable desire for sex, but people lusts for all sorts of things.
Love is a sacrifice. It’s when you choose to be at your best when the other person is not at their best. Love is unconditional. Love is an action. If you truly love someone you would communicate it by example. Love is the deepest form of intimacy you can have with another person.
Love is a deep affection that you have for another person. It’s a heart, soul and spirit filled connection. Whereas lust is an attraction to satisfy ungodly cravings. Love is a lasting attraction that goes deeper than lust. Love goes beyond the surface and turns into a much deeper attachment.
Never blame God for tempting you to lust after something or someone. “When tempted no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He blame anyone. But each one is tempted when by his own evil desires he is lured away and enticed” (James 1:13,14 Berean Study Bible).
The following are some differences between love and lust in a significant relationship:
Love is all about emotional, heart, soul and spirit connection. Lust is all about physical connection.
Love takes time. Lust is impulsive.
Love is forever faithful. Lust is never faithful.
Love is selfless. Lust is self-seeking.
Love increases with time. Lust decreases with time.
Love is about you. Lust is about them.
Love is slow and progressive. Lust is short and sudden.
Love is vulnerable and transparent. Lust is manipulative and deceitful.
Love is other centered. Lust is self-centered.
Love keeps no secrets. Lust keeps secrets.
Love always keeps its promises. Lust fails to keep its promises.
Love is trust worthy. Lust fails to tell truth.
Love leaves you fulfilled. Lust leaves you empty.
Love brings unity, harmony and peace. Lust brings division, chaos and drama.
Love gives shelter and protects. Lust endangers and destroys.
Love brings security. Lust brings insecurity.
Love never fails. Lust always fails.
Love is forever. Lust is temporal.
Love gives life. Lust takes life.
“run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts” (2 Timothy 2:22 NLT).
‘Lust is a state of mind on body parts, seduction, power, fantasy and excitement. Love is risky and scary on an emotional level. You’re becoming very real and vulnerable with them, trusting them with your fears and hopes, sharing stories of shame and pride, hope and disappointment, and really letting yourself be known. Love is letting your guard down and granting your partner access to areas you don’t even like to visit.’ Ryan Howes
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a NIV).
‘True love doesn’t have a happy ending, because true love never ends.’ Author Unknown
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13:13 NIV).